Have you ever experienced that restless, anxious feeling and weren’t sure what to do about it? For the last couple of years I noticed that I had such a feeling. My thoughts also kept drifting to a bigger question, “What is my purpose? What type of life do I want to live?”
I couldn’t figure out why this question kept coming up, but I know myself, and I could not ignore it. I am built in a way that if there is something that needs to be answered or fixed, I attack the problem. Well, trying to find a quick answer and get the question to stop pervading my thoughts was not happening.
I kept trying to force an answer. All that did was allow more frustration to settle in. I wasn’t getting clear. For the longest time, I found that I could quickly get to answers without a lot of effort. But that wasn’t working for me anymore.
Perhaps my way of thinking needed to change. I decided to pick one thing professionally and personally to change. That meant that I needed to pick the way I thought about a certain topic and be open to the opposite.
On the personal side, I needed to take time for me – just me. I felt I was missing something. I needed to fulfill whatever it was that kept making me feel empty. It took a long time for me to figure out what I was in search for to fulfill the emptiness because I had been looking at other people in my life to fill that emptiness. The truth I have discovered is that we fulfill our own needs, not others.
On the professional side, I was closed to working with a consultant/coach. I guess it was because I saw it as counter to my self-sufficiency. I am motivated, successful, and I don’t need someone to tell me what I already know to do. But finally, I did take that jump towork with a consultant. It is by far the best thing I could have ever done in my professional career.
The work has helped me expand my vision and awareness. There is so much out there that I had been denying myself. I learned that good people in your life, whether personal or professional, make you better.
I also realize that change is overwhelming. That is why I have made it a commitment to focus on one big thing both professionally and personally.
Opening myself up to this commitment has made me happier. I feel greatly fulfilled. In the process, I am creating a new blueprint for my life, and that is because I am growing both professionally and personally.
No one is going to live your life for you. You have to go create your own blueprint and add to it everyday. It means growing continually. You will discover more meaning and joy.
Perhaps you have been delaying taking action on something. Don’t wait. I would encourage you to go do that one thing you have been thinking about doing. Do it for yourself.